Leather & BDSM Handbook
The Leather & BDSM Handbook
After
a decade of success with The leatherboy Handbook, I am now
releasing a new book. Since the initial release of The leatherboy
Handbook, many have pressed me to expand the text to include more content regarding
history, reference material, Dominant perspectives, and add more information
about the gay culture and the Heterosexual world.
With
that in mind, using the leatherboy handbook, I completely rewrote it, filling
it with all of the above requests. The content has been expanded in every
chapter, emphasizing references and a significant expansion of the historical
information. The author compares the heterosexual leather and fetish culture
with the Gay leather culture, displaying how they are different and how they
are alike. This edition also provided a legislative perspective on both
cultures and how the two communities merged together in the late 20th century.
There
are over 200 pages of new content doubling the size from the previous
leatherboy work. While this Leather and BDSM Handbook was
written for the broader audience, the leatherboy handbook will
continue to remain the same and for sale with its exclusive focus on
leatherboys. The leatherboy Handbook will also continue to
have content NOT found in this new Leather and BDSM Handbook. Some
things are just for boys, after all!
It
is my sincere desire that this work helps creates a foundation for leatherfolk
to start their journey on, but also put forth and inspire the readers to do
their OWN research based on the references and information found on these pages
to learn more and develop their own views on what is our Leather culture.
Table of contents
Author’s
Notes
Introduction
So
What Is a “Leather Person” Anyway?
The
Concept of Protocols
The
Purpose of This Book
Chapter
One:
A Brief History
A Brief History
Sadism
Masochism
Overview
of the Leather Movement
A
Timeline in Leather
Leather
versus BDSM Culture
Chapter
Two:
The Development of Gay Leather
The Development of Gay Leather
Military
Impact on Gay Leathermen
Repercussions
of the Military Experience
Growth
and Change among Gay Leathermen
Old
Guard and New Guard
Conclusion
Chapter
Three:
The Development of Straight Leather
The Development of Straight Leather
Early
Straight Leather Culture
Changes
Among Straight Leatherfolk
Straight
Leather in the Internet Age
Chapter
Four:
Struggle for Identity
Struggle for Identity
Do
You Know Who You Are Sexually?
Time
to Take Action…
Truth
or Consequences
Fiction
Facts
Chapter
Five:
Understanding BDSM Dynamics
Understanding BDSM Dynamics
Leather
Vocabulary
Details
of BDSM
S/M
Roles
D/s
Roles
Kink
Roles
Crossover
Between Groups
Topping
from the Bottom
Kink
in Leather Clothing
Scene
Names Within the Cultures
Understanding
Flagging
Chapter
Six:
Negotiation, SSC, and RACK
Negotiation, SSC, and RACK
SSC
versus RACK
Negotiations
Pitfalls
in Negotiations
Negotiation
in Kink Scenes
Final
Thoughts on Negotiations
Chapter
Seven:
Mentorship and Guardianship
Mentorship and Guardianship
The
Mentor’s Resumé
What
to Expect as a Ward
Where
Guardianship Goes Wrong
The
HIV Impact on Mentorship
Online
Safety
How
to Protect Yourself
Chapter
Eight:
What Is Being a Leather Person All About?
What Is Being a Leather Person All About?
Let’s
Start with the submissives
What
is a leatherboy?
leatherboys
and Slaves – NOT the Same!
Submissive
or Bottom?
A
Sub Is a Sub Is a Sub…
So
What’s In It for the sub?
Moving
on to Dominants
What
Is a Dominant?
Masters,
Daddies, and Sirs – NOT the Same!
Dominant
or Top?
A
Dom Is a Dom Is a Dom…
So
What’s In It for the Dom?
Chapter
Nine:
The D/s Attitude
The D/s Attitude
Behavior
for Dominants and submissives
Getting
Into the Right Headspace
Protocols
for the Leather Person
Leather
Energy
Chapter
Ten:
Fashions of the Leather Person
Fashions of the Leather Person
Begin
With the Boots
The
Rest of the Uniform
Leather
Fashion for Women
Hair
and Grooming
Covers,
Caps, and Hats
Hygiene
Harnesses
The
Sam Browne Belt
Gloves
Vests
and Vest Protocols
Pins
Leather
Jackets
Cigars
and Smells
The
Finishing Touch
Conclusion
Chapter
Eleven:
Collars
Collars
What
a Collar Is – and Isn’t
Training
Collars
Permanent
Collars
When
a Collar Is Not a Good Thing
Accepting
a Collar As a submissive
Offering
a Collar As a Dominant
Final
Thoughts on Collars
Losing
a Collar or Being Released
Chapter
Twelve:
Journals
Journals
Journaling
Habits
Chapter
Thirteen:
Inclusion vs Exclusion
Inclusion vs Exclusion
Chapter
Fourteen:
Masculinity and Femininity Within the Leather Culture
Masculinity and Femininity Within the Leather Culture
Masculinity
in Leather
Femininity
in Leather
Chapter
Fifteen:
Looking for a Dominant or submissive
Looking for a Dominant or submissive
Digging
Beyond Introductions
Working
Your Way Toward a Dom or sub
Petitions
Asking
the Right Questions
Chapter
Sixteen:
Poly Relationships / Triads
Poly Relationships / Triads
Hierarchy
Within a Household
Leather
Families
Other
Relationship Types
Chapter
Seventeen:
Transitioning to Top or Dominant
Transitioning to Top or Dominant
Mortality’s
Effect On D/s
Transitioning:
Traditional vs. Non-Traditional
When
You Are NOT a Dominant
When
It’s Time to Transition…
Taking
that First Hard Step
Out
with the Old…
Adopting
a Switch Role
No
Touching the submissives
Dealing
with Obstacles
Letting
Go and Moving Forward
Confidence
and Humility
If
the Dominant Passes Away
Chapter
Eighteen:
Contests and Title Holders
Contests and Title Holders
The
Trouble with Titles
Understanding
Leather Contests
Impact
of Titles
Do
I Really Want a Title?
Chapter
Ninteen:
Safe Cruising and Playing Around
Safe Cruising and Playing Around
The
Importance of Vetting
Picking
up Strangers While Traveling
Safety
While Playing
Chapter
Twenty:
Guides and Goals of Doms & subs
Guides and Goals of Doms & subs
Guidelines
That Make Sense
Conclusion
Final
Thoughts From the Author
About
the Author
Reading
List
Glossary